Stop Waiting For Your Big Break

The Cavalry Isn't Coming

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“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.” -Seneca

I really don’t want to write this post. It feels too vulnerable. It’s going to require me to do some work. I’m going to have to reconfigure, reimagine my life.

So I write this today for me. But also for anyone else reading who is waiting to be found. Waiting to be noticed, discovered, rescued. Personally or professionally.

I feel like The Hope Guy™ should say something like “Don’t give up! Your rescue is coming! You will be found!” Some may choose to say those words—they feel good, but honestly, I can’t say them in good conscience.

My hope has to have an answer for when help doesn’t show up.

Photo by Levi Meir Clancy on Unsplash

I just read an incredibly insightful article about this very thing—her words arrived like an oxygen mask being offered in a smoke-filled room. Amie was a guest on one of the world’s largest podcasts and talked about her new book. Her publisher and PR team were stoked that her appearance on this huge platform would be the thing to skyrocket sales. And guess what, nothing happened. I love how she claims “the cavalry isn’t coming,” but rather, our success will come from small wins like connecting with a reader, or a listener, who then chooses to share it with a friend. Read her story here… (warning: profanity alert)

I’m so grateful for the creative life that I’ve been blessed with. It’s been a lot of years of getting to create meaningful and fun things and share them with others. Music, books, photographs, podcasts, writings, my radio feature, audiobooks, even acting on TV and in films. Recently, I’m especially proud of my Road To Royce documentary and THE HOPE PROJECT.

I’ve worked hard to keep following the muse, listening to my heart, chasing after my innermost desires, to create things that hopefully make life a little bit better for other people. I’m grateful for how well it seems to have worked!

But I’ve been riddled with a longing to be rescued, to be noticed. Someone to come along, and together, we’d build a healthy, successful business.

That could still happen. But it hasn’t yet.

What if rescue is not coming? What if the white knight on a horse is not going to show up and sweep me off into the success I’ve been dreaming of? The chances are it’s not.

So I’m going need to readjust. And it’s gonna start by rejecting the idea that help is coming. In that, is a strange freedom. A freedom to be more fully me. To be more authentically creative, rather than constantly trying to fit into someone else’s (extremely intangible) expectations of what I should be doing and how well it should be going.

Hope tells me that I am capable of more.

(P.S. This is one of the main reasons I had to move away from Nashville)

Here’s a question for you: Have you been waiting to be rescued and swept into a better life? If so, I’d like to offer a better question: How can you create a better life for yourself that doesn’t depend on anyone else?

One of the biggest lessons I’ve been writing and speaking about over the past year is taking responsibility for your own life. How setting aside fear and worry, and instead, choosing to be brave and take whatever steps you can to create the life you desire, is what makes life come alive in magical ways.

Together, let’s reject misery. Let’s surrender the “waiting” mentality. Let go of the idea of a white horse coming over the hill.

And let’s blaze a trail through an unexplored forest—in our own authentic way. And let’s just see what happens!

Hope shows up when we take the smallest steps to align our life with our authentic desires.

What’s one small thing you can do today to honor what’s inside of you?

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